Inability to Understand Personal Accountability is America's #1 Flaw

Personal Accountability Is The Number 1 Flaw That Exists In America 

    When did humans forget how to take responsibility for their actions?  

    When did they forget that other people have no responsibility for how one person acts?

    When did we become a society of entitled, whiney, self-indulged brats who think everyone else is responsible for how poorly we feel about ourselves?

    And when did we lose our own self-respect, self-esteem, and self-worth that we do nothing but blame others for how we feel, act, and treat others?

    I know there are a lot of people out there like me, who are sick and tired of hearing these phrases:

• You make me feel...
• If it wasn't for you I...
• I can't...
• It's all their fault...
• If they didn't do____, then I wouldn't have...
• I could have been somebody if it wasn't for...

    I could go on and on with this list, but I'm already getting sick just typing it out (which is my own personal response, and no one is responsible for how I feel when I read or hear others say these things).

    People make mistakes, it's part of life.  The absence of Failure is not found in the absence of Mistakes, but in Inability to look at those mistakes and see them for what they truly are: 

AN OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN AND GROW.

    For far too long, what we see most in the news is BLAME!  This person blames that person for how their life turned out, this race blames that race for their lot in life, this party blames that party for defeating them.

    Where we messed up is clear and easy to see.

PARTICIPATION DOES NOT DESERVE A TROPHY

    When we stop encouraging competition, we steal something from ourselves.  

We steal the drive to be better, to grow, to learn, to succeed.

    Without this subconscious force to become better people, we have turned ourselves into nothing more than whining, entitled, self-indulgent, disrespectful humans who have nothing better to do than to be in EVERYONE ELSE'S BUSINESS.

    When we had a competitive edge we were so busy working on ourselves, we didn't have time to worry about what neighbors were doing, nor did we find time to talk about others when they weren't around.  Our main focus was on becoming the best version of ourselves that we could be.

    We owned our mistakes, our words, our actions.  We didn't air our dirty laundry out in public because that wasn't the best version of ourselves and people kept that behind closed doors.  It showed self-respect, self-restraint, and the ability to show the best side of us to the world.

    But what do we do today?

    We show our ass, we act like fools, we blame everyone else for how our life turned out, we decide to change our identity because maybe that will make things better.

    But at the end of the day: 

• you still have the same problems 
• you still have no coping skills 
• you still whine about your lot in life 
• you still find time to bully people on the internet 
• you still hate yourself 
• and you still can't understand why (blah blah blah).

 

    When we live in a society that blames, we FAIL!

    When we fail, it isn't that we made a mistake, but that we chose not to take the opportunity to learn and grow from it.  

    When we fail, it isn't just the individual that is hurt by that action, but everyone else is their life as well.  This is because when we allow ourselves to be failures, we teach that to our children, who then also allow themselves to be failures, but now they become blamers too.  Blamers don't care who they hurt, all they care about is that they don't feel good about themselves and it's everyone else's fault.  

    Blamers tend to join every protest or political action that will get them attention.  They drum up drama just because they want the attention and they insight anger and bring negativity into the limelight because they need to in order to feel better about themselves.

    I am not blaming parents for their children's mistakes, faults, flaws, or misgivings

    Every single human being born on this earth was endowed with a certain power at the moment of their birth.  That power is freedom of CHOICE.

    We all make choices every single day.  Just because a person reflects a certain action or lack of action, does not mean that if their child behaves the same way, that it is all their fault.  No, that would be an easy out, and those don't exist.  See, we all choose every day how we are going to behave.  We all make choices about who we are going to be at any given moment.  Some people live in the past, some people live in the future, but successful people live in the now!  They cherish every moment that comes to them, and they strive to get the best out of all of them.

    When is it going to be time to stop creating a generation of self-absorbed crybabies?  When is it time to tell our children "No you can't play on the phone, or game console, or watch tv"? When are parents going to understand that their job is far more important than being their kid's friend?  That being a parent means sometimes you have a hard job to do, and sometimes their children aren't going to like them, but they will be better children, and then better adults because of the lessons they learned?

It's all about choices people!  

Start making some today and enjoy a better tomorrow! 

Start being accountable for your own actions, responsible for what you say and how you say it, and learn from the mistakes you make.  

It's ok not to get it right the first time, but it's not ok to blame others and not try!